Is there any truth to the idea that ones surroundings affects ones piece of mind? I think so. A warm comfortable room leads to warm comfortable thoughts. A clean organized work space feels good to be in and work flows and time passes.
Does personal chaos lead to disorder or does disorder lead to personal chaos? In my experience they are so closely related it might not even matter which comes first. Once someone is on a downward spiral of disorder and disaster the slide continues.
It takes heroic action to change. However I believe that change can begin with something as simple as cleaning a room, doing the dishes, ironing a shirt…. basically in taking pride in ones space, possessions and home. In fact maybe that is the key to the quandary, PRIDE. If you have pride in yourself, you take the time for pride in your home, your work and your family. Without pride how can you car for your space, your home or yourself.
Pride must be built, and it must be built on solid reality. Build it up one accomplishment at a time. Do something quantifiable and then take time to congratulate yourself. Make a list of those things you want to achieve, make a SMART list (Specific, Measurable, achievable, Realistic and Time based) and cross items off as you get them done…. this gives you tangible proof of your achievements.
Is it a truism that we will always fight against what is good for us? Why is it so difficult to learn from the advice of others? Is this strictly a teenage issue of does this human trait also limit the adoption of new processes and methodologies in the business world? Does the truism explain the low rate of acceptance and compliance for any new system?
I have observed that even when the best reasons can be trotted out and paraded about, people will always complain about the change and sing the praises of the old system. Even when and perhaps especially when up to that very moment they complained about how difficult the old system was.
There are two tactics to take in introducing a new system or process.
Do it the new way or else!
Involve the people in the design of the new system.
I believe that the second way is best, however it does take the patient hand of someone with a guiding vision.
Some choices come to us in a flash and in that same flash we can see which option to choose, the right choice is obvious. Other choices slide up on us slowly like a shadow moving across the lawn.
Which comes to us first, the opportunity or the choice? Conventional wisdom holds that things happen and we cope, we deal and we make our choice of what to do – which path to take. I believe that much of the time it works the other way. We decide we want a change and then it happens. Long long before you pick your new house, the colour for the wall or that new pair of shoes…you decided you needed something and whether you knew it or not you thought about what that might be.
If only they could see themselves as we see them. With faults yes, but also with possibilities and with seeds of a bright future, limited only by their desire and their ability to work.
Then I wonder what others see when they look at me. Am I missing not only my faults, but my possibilities? Am I missing chances and opportunities? Are there obvious choices that others see but that I do not make? Are there chores I neglect? Things that I should do that I don’t even see?